Fortunately, for every ignored message, there are many more answered messages, from the likes of @bringingupbabe’s mama, Chelsie Hill, Wes Hamilton, Eric Legrand, Ally Grizzard, LeAnne Lavender, and Aldo Amenta. Together they have almost 400k followers but individually they represent wives, moms, athletes, fashionistas, and designers who just so happen to also be members of this most unfortunate club that none of us wanted to be a part of. They answer hundreds of messages from people like you and I who have questions about all things marriage, parenthood, and lifestyle with SCI. They stand for all the things we hope to emulate on our own page: perseverance, strength, courage, creativity, and compassion, just to name a few. They understand that, while competition is a healthy part of life, life itself is not a competition, it’s about relationships.
My favorite social media pages, like The Reeve Foundation and WAGS of SCI, don't concern themselves with amassing the largest possible following but rather focus on reaching and connecting with their followers in the trenches to figure out how to best serve them. These organizations understand the ‘business’ we’re all in is inherently community-based. They recognize that everyone living with SCI knows something they can share with others and everyone is worth listening to and learning from.
To end this, I’d like to challenge you to practice gratitude. Make a list of your ‘tribe’, the people or organizations who helped you get to where you’re at right now. Send these people a note, email, or mention them on social media to remind them how grateful you are for their support and guidance. I’d also like to encourage you to always aim to give a little more than you take from your tribe and to make every interaction reciprocal. Because SCI is hard, but it’s darn near impossible to get through alone. So embrace your community, band together, form partnerships, and learn from one another. After all, we rise by lifting others.